Employee Conflict is Lowering Productivity and Morale

After discovering a co-worker washing out his colostomy bag in the restroom at his workplace, another employee complained to his boss about it. The manager, similarly disturbed by the behavior, went to HR seeking to fire the co-worker for safety and hygiene violations.

That wasn't the right response, says Margaret Driscoll, who was a senior regional HR director at the New England-based company at the time, as there were no job-related performance issues at play in this instance.

So instead of preparing termination paperwork, Driscoll sat down with the employee to talk, and she learned the reason for his behavior: He was washing and reusing his colostomy bag to save money to pay for his wife's expensive medical treatments. Driscoll addressed the situation by arranging for benefits to assist with the medical care for the employee's wife.

"He needed help, and we got him help," Driscoll says. "We were able to use our current medical plan, plus other resources from the American Cancer Society, to best assist him and his family during those hard times."

While employee conflicts are inevitable, this incident underscores the importance of talking to employees before irritations and minor disagreements escalate into full-scale warfare. "You try to understand what the issue is," says Driscoll, now chief people and culture officer at Blackbaud, a cloud computing provider based in Charleston, S.C. "You have to learn empathy and care."

Addressing the Underlying Issues in Disagreements

Employee conflicts can be a huge distraction at work, leading to reduced productivity and lower morale. They can also be time-consuming. Employees and managers spend an average of 4.3 hours a week dealing with conflict, according to Conflict at Work, a 2022 global research report by the Myers-Briggs Co. Of the 271 employees surveyed, most of whom were from the U.S. and the United Kingdom, 36 percent said they deal with workplace conflict "often" or "all the time."

The most common causes of conflict? Poor communication, lack of role clarity and heavy workloads, the survey results revealed. Those conflicts take a toll on job satisfaction. Employees who spend more hours dealing with conflict are also more likely to be dissatisfied with their jobs than those who spend less time handling conflict, the report concluded.

Of course, not all conflict is unhealthy. Some conflict in the workplace can be a good thing, according to Amy Gallo, author of Getting Along: How to Work with Anyone (Even Difficult People) (Harvard Business Review Press, 2022) and HBR Guide to Dealing with Conflict (Harvard Business Review Press, 2017). "Healthy conflict includes disagreements, debates or discussions that advance a conversation, meeting or project toward a goal," Gallo says. "It has lots of benefits, including better work outcomes, innovation, improved relationships, and opportunities for those involved to learn and grow."

However, she adds, "conflict turns unhealthy when people begin to disrespect one another. They get stuck in an endless tug of war, or those involved start focusing on the people rather than the problem." Frustrations can be magnified in a remote-work environment, where relationships exist primarily on computer screens. In such situations, "conflict has the ability to simmer longer than if it was in person," Driscoll says.

Effective Conflict Resolution Techniques for Managers

Company executives should encourage managers to work out issues among their team members as long as the complaints don't raise legal concerns, experts say.

No one in HR wants employees coming to them with minor issues such as scheduling conflicts or other matters that fall under a supervisor's purview, says Myrna L. Maysonet, chief diversity officer and partner at law firm Greenspoon Marder LLP in Fort Lauderdale, Fla. "The goal should be solving it at the lowest level possible," Maysonet says. "You want your manager to manage the everyday issues. HR can't be the arbitrator of things all the time. Nobody can do that."

That means HR leaders should train managers on how to resolve employee conflicts and on when to elevate issues. "HR has the responsibility to ensure the managers are equipped and know where to go for the resources" to handle infighting on their teams, Maysonet says. If they don't know what to do, company leaders should encourage them to ask for help.

To defuse tensions within teams, managers should motivate individuals to resolve conflicts among themselves and coach them on how to do so, Gallo advises. "The tricky part is that people often end up in a disagreement without knowing exactly what they're disagreeing about, so part of your job is to help them clarify what the issue is."

Some managers—and HR professionals—prefer to avoid conflict or don't want to admit that they can't handle a problem themselves. While it's tempting to think a problem will go away if ignored, that never happens, says Sharon Lovoy, an HR consultant and communications trainer based in the Birmingham, Ala., area. "If there is water on the plant floor, you wouldn't want someone not to say something. That's a safety issue," she points out.

The same is true for raising people-related concerns. When a manager comes to HR leadership about a conflict between employees, those leaders must then weigh whether the issue is a matter of people not getting along, or if more egregious behavior is involved.

If the disagreement is minor, Lovoy favors bringing the two parties together to talk. She suggests HR professionals help alleged offenders understand why their behaviors were problematic and facilitate a process in which those involved in the conflict can have a conversation. Sometimes the offended party just wants an apology and an acknowledgment that the behavior was unacceptable. But apologies must be authentic—simply saying "I'm sorry if I offended you" won't fly—and must include a promise not to repeat the behavior at issue.

Conflict can also occur between departments, especially when they have different agendas, objectives and cultures. If departments can't resolve their differences on their own, company leaders can assist them by trying to understand what's at stake. "What is the nature of the conflict? What is the core issue that the departments can't agree on? Once you have a sense of what that is, you can encourage the people in those departments to understand how their goals are connected," Gallo says. Then call attention to how the departments rely on each other.

"It can also be helpful to facilitate a conversation with the relevant stakeholders to help them articulate what they would ideally want an outcome to look like," Gallo adds. "Then, seek to find common ground in what each department wants."

When to Escalate Employee Issues to HR

Sometimes the resolution fails, and company leaders have no choice but to terminate the offending party. That was the case some years ago when Kimberley Pasquarella, SHRM-SCP, was the HR director at a call center in the Northeast. A junior employee was struggling at work because her supervisor was giving her unreasonable deadlines, withholding information, micromanaging and verbally abusing her. She "was nervous all of the time, constantly in fear of being ridiculed," recalls Pasquarella, who is now vice president of employee experience at LeadingAge, a nonprofit membership organization for providers of aging services in Washington, D.C.

The situation went on for several months, but the employee was afraid to confront her boss and felt uncomfortable going to HR. The problem didn't come to light until a concerned co-worker informed HR.

The two-member HR department launched an investigation. While there was no evidence of discrimination on the basis of a protected class, it became clear that the manager was undermining the employee at every turn. "There was definitely a pattern," Pasquarella says. "It started out by the person sort of micromanaging to the point [where] the employee really couldn't do her job. Everything she did was not up to the standards of this person."

Then, complaints about the supervisor started rolling in from other employees. HR noticed absentee rates were up for her team and for cross-functional teams working directly with her. Pasquarella and the CEO coached the supervisor. They also brought in an external coach and required the supervisor to attend anti-harassment training. While the individual showed some improvement at first, complaints resurfaced within eight months; ultimately, the company dismissed her.

"We really valued what that leader was bringing to the organization, but ultimately the cost was too great to the organization to allow the behavior" to continue, Pasquarella says. "We took all the steps we felt we could take, but at some point the accused has to be accountable for themselves."